Hope you all had a wonderful time writing and preparing for the board exams. Indeed one of the most hyped and “important” examinations in our life as lifted by both the education system and peer groups.
So, now you are done with writing the exam and probably waiting for results with great hopes, aspirations and fears. You have put in the entire year working hard. I am sure all of you have invested your time, money and hard work to make through it. Many of you must have burnt the midnight oil, went for tuition’s or extra-classes, been awake 24*7, tried to away yourself from every possible social media, friends and relatives just to appear and do well in BOARDS. I know the aura is so that we all have to deal with it no matter how positive and supportive everyone is!
Fine, you are done with all of it.
The preparation, fear, expectations and with all of it here comes the time for the results, maybe declared or about to be declared.
Before I write my message for you I want to tell you the reason or thought behind this letter. Every year just after the results are declared we happen to read or watch news which tells us about young people committing suicide or dealing with depression, anxiety or mental illness soon after the declaration and this is what disturbs me to the core.
But by then the time is gone when we can speak to you or ask you what made you do so and why did you even dare to think of doing this act!! It’s pretty late and all we can do is join candle marches, write on social media forums, blame the education system, interview parents and lastly pray for their souls to rest in peace.
But now comes the point that how do I make you feel or think better??
I won’t be verbose about life and its elements but just make an effort to tell you your worth and purpose of life. Yes my dear friends/students your thoughts make you what you are so let’s think differently and act differently.
YOU are special and deeply loved. Your marks or grades don’t determine your self-worth. You are still special and matter a lot to your family, friends and society. This is not the end rather just a new beginning towards your dreams and aspirations. One exam or one result is not what you were living for. Your life is still great and you have the potential to make the best of your life. This is just a report card of one examination which can always be worked on for improvement, and that’s it.
This is not the end of your life.
Life is beautiful and we are living with a purpose which is greater and still achievable. We have to work towards GRADE A and 100% in life. We have to excel in life, make our parents proud and do wonders. And we still can, this is just a bend not the end.
Reality is that our interests and capabilities differ so sometimes we fail to figure out where exactly we are lacking and how can we improve. I know the times we are living in; are of competition, rat race and just climbing up. Now it’s more about “we got to be successful soon and earn good”. It’s more about achieving more in less time and just excel. Yes it’s important for you to earn your bread and better. Yes it’s important for you to run a family, own a house, car and all the luxuries in life. Yes it’s also important to click on the first attempt and show the world that you can.
Trust me it’s important but not the end of your story.
And yes, you can do all of the above sooner or later but we differ and so does our results.
This result is just one chapter of your book so rewrite it or improve the next chapter but don’t end the book on this note because the story has a better and beautiful climax. Make it, create it and live it.
I may sound preachy or idealistic because I know even after reading this when the result day will come you will still feel tensed and if you don’t attain good marks you may feel depressed. That’s completely fine but only for that moment. Don’t decide for the rest of your life in that one moment. Get up, learn from your mistakes and face it. You can and you will.
By writing this letter I anyhow don’t intend to discourage exams or lessen the importance of boards or make you feel casual about it but just want you to reflect, evaluate and understand. Life is beautiful so believe in it and live it.
I would like to conclude by writing a short note to parents with utmost reverence. I understand your expectations and dreams from your children which absolutely are genuine. But please make them feel that you expect them to first live well, be good and then perform.
Let’s sit together and release their stress, worries and fears with a feel of assurance that they will still be special, loved and their worth would remain the same.
Sometimes one word, sentence or pat does it all.
Let’s just assure them that they can still do wonders and make them believe in themselves and understand life better.
Five years from now you will understand that grades and marks matter but skills and values matter the most.
So hone your skills both professional and life skills, identity your potential, make a choice, dream for it and make it happen. YES IF YOU THINK, YOU CAN AND YOU WILL.
And yes heartiest congratulations, for you have survived so far so you will surely sail through all very well.
“Great minds and great personalities don’t always have great mark sheets. All you need for a great life is the first two”- Vir Das